by Lil Tuttle
Suzanne Venker, author of The War on Men and The Alpha Female’s Guide to Men & Marriage: How Love Works, is nationally recognized for her insight into America’s gender wars, relationships, marriage and work-family conflicts. Over the course of her career, she’s also received plenty of stories from both sexes on their first-hand experiences in these matters.
Pulling common themes and threads from the personal stories on marriage she received from men, Suzanne recently penned this letter to her 14-year-old son:
Don’t marry a feminist, son, because she has an ax to grind, and someday you’ll become her target.
Don’t marry a feminist because she’s unable to give for the sake of giving. Feminists always tally up a score.
Don’t marry a feminist because family will not come first. Her career will.
Don’t marry a feminist because equality, not marriage, is her ultimate goal. And for marriage to work, the focus and commitment has to be marriage.
Don’t marry a feminist because if you get divorced, which you likely will since competitive relationships don’t last, she’ll blame you — and then use your kids as a weapon.
Don’t marry a feminist because you’ll never be happy. Feminists are perpetually angry and dissatisfied and have no sense of humor. Here’s a great 30-second video to explain what I mean.
The bottom line, son, is that a feminist will not love you the way a real woman will. What’s a real woman?
A real woman is a nice, soft, feminine creature who respects everyone, including men. She has character and a strong moral fiber. For her, marriage and family come first. Work is important, too; but it’s not the be-all-end-all
A real woman will want and appreciate a real man like you. A real man is a kind, strong, masculine creature who respects everyone, including women. He has character and a strong moral fiber, like your father. For him, marriage and family come first. Work is just a means to an end.
I know you’ll have to wade through a lot of feminists to find a real woman today, but you will find her.
Don’t settle.